Two hour arguments with your SO is NOT fun. The worst part is that with feelings of helplessness towards the problem, the dark, cold mechanical side came out. Nothing I did helped my SO. And she snapped at me as if it was my fault. We made up soon after, but I don't want to have that experience again. And despite all this, she gave me a present. I won't go into detail about it, but it was an act of true kindness and compassion which I found rare. It brought tears to my eyes for the first time in a long time.